When someone dies, families often choose a headstone. A headstone marks where a person is burried. It also says something about their life. But what is the right way to write on a headstone?
Keep It Short and Respectful
Most headstones have simple words. They show respect and love. You might see “Loving Father,” “Beloved Wife,” or “Forever Missed.” These words are easy to read and full of feeling. Families do not need to write a long message. Short and kind words work best.
Example:
Tom’s famly chose “Gone Too Soon” for his stone. Tom was 18 when he died in a car crash. His mom said, “We wanted words that match his short but full life.”
Use Full Names and Dates
It is best to use the full name of the person. Add their birth and death dates. This helps people know who is burried there. Dates give a small story of life.
Example:
Lisa’s stone says:
Lisa Marie Carter
Feb. 2, 1962 – Jun. 12, 2020
Her dauter said, “It was important to have her full name and real dates.”
Avoid Jokes or Slang
A headstone is a place of peace. Funny words or slang are not the best choice. They can make others feel upset. Even if the person liked jokes, this is not the place for them.
Ask the Cemetery First
Each cemetry has its own rules. Some allow long lines. Some want only stone-carved letters. Others have size limits. Always ask before you order.
Fact: The National Funeral Directors Assoc. says many cemeteries check for spelling and style before they accept a stone.
Include Faith or Quotes (if you want)
Some families like to add a verse or quote. It could be from the Bible, a poem, or a favrite book. These words show the person’s spirit or beliefs.
Example:
Mark’s headstone says, “The Lord is my shepherd.” It comes from Psalm 23. His wife said, “That line gave him peace.”
Watch the Spelling
Check all words before the stone is made. A small misteak is hard to fix. Check the name, dates, and lines. Ask two people to read it.
Words Matter a Lot
A headstone lasts for years. People visit and read the words. Kind and clear words show care. Use a tone that brings comfort.
Proof: In a 2020 study, 78% of people said the words on a headstone helped them feel close to their loved one.